Saturday, 22 August 2009

Family Matters

This has been a busy week. I realise I haven't been blogging and that's a combination of tiredness and my head being full of other 'stuff' that needs attending to.
  • My dear old Dad who has been in poor health for a long time, became even more seriously ill on Monday and was taken into hospital. My sister and I felt he was close to death. It was touch and go for a couple of days, and he's still very ill but stable. He's going to be in hospital for a while longer and the medical staff have agreed with us that he needs further nursing care, and so will be transferred next week to a local hospital with a rehabilitation ward. Dad is 83, and misses Mum dreadfully. He told me this week that he'd 'had enough now' and wants to see her again. I feel strangely calm that this might happen quite soon.
  • My lovely girls arrived home and is was so wonderful to see them again. We've enjoyed our time together this week and have taken the lovely Tess out to various places for long, long walks. Walking Tess together is a great family activity, where we can talk without the interruption of 'phones and TV.
So this has been a week for family. The good and not so good. The happy and the sad. The old and the young. I'm happy to embrace it all, and to deal with what happens when it happens.

12 comments:

Nicola said...

That's a sad situation with your dad. I'm thinking of you. xx

Dan said...

Sorry to hear about your dad.

To be accepting of your own death is a possitive thing in many ways. I hope I get to that place when it's my turn.

metscan said...

Feeling so much sympathy for you. My mother passed away just after Xmas, having been on a long hospital-care home-hospital cruise for 2 years. Every single day, she would talk about how much she wished to die. That period was extremely difficult for her, and also for everyone close to her. She died at the age of 86 and I want to believe that in the very end she didn´t have to suffer. She slept away. This is a tough time for you. I wish you strength !

Imogen Lamport said...

Sorry to hear about your dad. I'm glad that Tess is brining some positivity to your lives.

That Girl39 said...

So sorry to hear about your dad.. I cant imagine how you must be feeling. You sound very brave to try and gain that acceptance but Im sure thats not easy. Glad your girls are back home. Thinking of you xx

Sunday said...

Dearest notSupermum, my thoughts are with you. Whether your lovely dad decides to stay or go, you are clearly there for him, and what more could we possibly want from our children, other than their love and support? Time to lose the not from your name, and maybe add superDaughter as well.

When things sometimes seem dire to me, my mother reminds me that "it is only life, after all". Mostly maddening at the time, but when I get a glimpse of the bigger picture, it is oddly reassuring.

I'm glad the girls are back with you, and that you now have Tess in your life as well!

Much love to you,

Sunday xx

DolceDreams said...

I am sure the week has brought up many emotions for you. I wish you peace in the midst of it all. lad to hear your girls are home.
Nathalie

see you there! said...

Sounds like you are handling a hard situation with grace. So sorry to hear about your Dad and am glad the girls are home with you now.

Darla

A Modern Mother said...

I hope all goes well with your father. Mine is of similair age and health.

getting stuff done said...

a tear in my eye from this post, missus. Family eh. xxx hugs

La Belette Rouge said...

I am so sorry I missed this post. I have taken a break because of tendinitis and He-weasel's attack of kidney stones.

I so relate to your situation with your dad. My mom is doing a list of all her valuables and telling me what I should sell and what I should keep. She seems to be preparing to go and it is very strange that she is so dispassionate about it. The way I am coping is to go into denial and shock. How are you managing it? I am sending hugs and love, as always.xoxo

michelescottage said...

Sending hugs to you.

Michele