Thursday, 7 March 2013

Dear Taylor Swift...

Taylor Swift
Image: Mobu 27 via Flickr

Dear Taylor,

You don't know me but I'm the mother of two teenage daughters, they like your music and admire you but have recently started to question your choices.

Why the change? You might ask. Well, the media has whipped up a storm about your 'numerous' boyfriends and my girls are questioning why you've had so many.

First of all, you are an amazingly talented young woman. A multi-award winning star with a huge future ahead of you, so it's disappointing and hugely misogynistic for the media to focus on your private life more than on your professional. But unfortunately that's what sells magazines and newspapers.

Secondly, in your interview with Instyle Magazine you're quoted as saying:

“My fears circle around me making the wrong choices and messing this up for myself. I don’t wanna end up being awful and intolerable. Alone. Laying in a marble bathtub by myself, like sad, with a glass of wine just complaining that my life ended up alone because I pushed everyone away because I thought I was too good to hang out with anybody.”

Awww, really? This makes me feel so sad for you. Can I just remind you that you're only 23. Twenty-three. That's very young, and you shouldn't be panicking about being alone. Maybe when you get to my age you should worry, but not when you're still so young. You've achieved so much already, so what if you're not as good with boys/men - who of us can say we were at that age?

You're a beautiful girl who, with a little more life experience, will be confident enough to exist without being part of a  relationship.

You also say in that interview: "I have like two or three [platonic] guy friends. A select few. But I have like 20-25 really good girlfriends.”

My advice? Spend time with your good girlfriends, take a break from trying to make relationships work and take some time to figure out who you really are. Your girlfriends are the ones who will be with you every step of the way not just for the good times, cherish them.

Let the boyfriends thing take a back seat for a while, they can wait.

You're a role model to so many teenage girls the world over, remember that.

Enjoy your success.


a concerned parent.