Thursday, 24 December 2015

Christmas wishes and a thank you

Christmas mantel decorations

The Christmas greyhound

Christmas mantel decorations

Christmas stick tree


It's Christmas Eve although it doesn't feel like it - it's 10 degrees outside, the sun is shining and it feels more like spring.

Our Christmas decorations have been up for a few days, the food shopping was done yesterday, and the dog is wearing her Christmas collar, but even though I always intend to be more organised and wrap the presents early on I always end up doing it on Christmas Eve.  So in a few minutes I'm going to make a cup of tea, decamp to my bedroom, put the radio on, and get on with the wrapping.

In the meantime I'd like to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year. I hope 2016 brings you everything you wish for yourself.

Thank you for visiting my blog this year, and in previous years if you're a long-time reader. I really have appreciated each visit and the time you've taken to leave comments.

Thanks again,

Jean x

P.s. If you're spending Christmas Day on your own and you're a Twitter user there's the #joinin hashtag to help you feel a little less alone. You can read more about it here.

Sunday, 6 December 2015

5 things you can do to save money without even noticing it

We're heading towards the most expensive time of year, so I'm pleased to share this post with you about saving money without even noticing.  I hope you find it useful!

5 ways to save money without even noticing

Since Christmas is coming and all the huge spendings are coming as well, we should sit down and discuss a few ways how you can prepare yourself for that. We all need to relax a little bit and just try to slow down our spendings. Therefore, today I am going to share five super great and almost invisible things you can do before Christmas to save some money for a perfect gift! So – here they are! Have fun!

Sleep well
Believe it or not, but if you sleep well, you will feel well and so you will keep yourself away from overspending. To be fair, getting a good night’s sleep might improve your decision making. And what depends on everything you do during your day – shopping included. Furthermore, if you sleep enough, you will improve your impulse control as well. So just by sleeping around seven hours per night might drastically improve not only your health but finances too.

Use coupons
This requires a little bit of your time and energy, but the results of couponing will be amazing. I bet that you get many coupons with your newspapers or magazines, so all you need to do is to cut them out and bring to a store. Moreover, searching for discounts online is not that hard either.

Eat breakfast
Another thing you can do and save money without noticing is eating breakfast! Many people skip this essential meal of the day for some reason, and they are making a huge mistake. Eating in the morning is not only good for your health (because the body absorbs all the nutrition better in the morning) but directly affects your mood and so – shopping habits as well. Hungry people are angrier and more impulsive, so by having good and big breakfast every morning you will do more good than harm for yourself. Furthermore, if you eat more in the morning, you will eat less during lunch or dinner. And so – won’t spend tons of money on groceries as well.

Drink water
Drinking water works on a few levels as well. First of all, by drinking a glass of room temperature still water in the morning help your body hydrate and also makes less space for food. So you won’t overeat and won’t overspend on grocery bills. So do that then you eat at home! While eating out, also remember this tip. In fact, alcohol and other beverages cost a few times more than table water. Also, these drinks make you feel even hungrier as well. By ordering water, you won’t only spend less in a restaurant, but also live healthier and eat less too.

Hang out with frugal friends

And finally, if you wish to save money for Christmas and just on an everyday basis, you should take a better look at people you hang out with. If your friends love to party and go out every weekend, you might naturally spend more money with them. While if you spend time with a group of people who prefer cheaper entertainment, you will save money. Your friends can be a huge influence on you, and we naturally take some habits from them as well. So if you want to save money, choose to hang out with people who have the same goals, and you won’t even notice that you are living frugally.

Small space living

Mantel arrangement


This time next year we could be moving house.

Our five-year house share arrangement with my brother will have come to an end, and because I'm reluctant to get tied into another fixed term mortgage deal I'm probably going to downsize to a (much) smaller house, taking my daughters, the dog and my squashy sofas with me.

Or maybe not the squashy sofas, because no matter what I do they never look tidy. Washing the covers makes them shrink slightly and then after wrestling with them to get them back onto the sofa, it looks great for about a day.  Then we're back to a messy looking seating area.

Here's the evidence. Before washing, and after.  What a difference.

Before and after sofa covers

I should add that they're now back to the 'before' version.

Next time I buy a sofa I'll buy one that will look much tidier and not require constant washing and plumping of cushions.

One of the things I've been doing to prepare for the move, apart from decluttering, is to talk to the girls about the benefits of living in a smaller house.  They've always been lucky enough to have their own bedrooms, and while that won't change they'll probably be much smaller, and of course there'll be less living space.

So I'm trying to sell downsizing to them as having cosier rooms, being easier to keep clean and cheaper to run (and therefore more money for other, more fun, stuff)  but they're not sold on it at the moment. I clearly have more work to do in that area, but give me time.

By coincidence, the first house I ever owned has come back on the market and I pass it on my daily walks with Alice, our greyhound. It's a tiny little cottage on a quiet lane and opposite the village green  and I lived there very happily for over 12 years, and even though it was the tiniest two-up, two-down terrace everyone who visited loved it and I was very reluctant to leave.

Alice the greyhound

Maybe it's a subconscious desire to recreate those happy days in my little house, who knows, but this time next year I'll be on the lookout for something similar.

For me, the beauty of living in a smaller house is eliminating superfluous items and finding creative and more efficient ways to furnish rooms and store belongings.  I'm currently obsessed with Apartment Therapy and their features about small space living. So many gorgeous homes with small footprints that use ingenious ways to use the limited space.

And what about this tiny house, which I absolutely love, which is home to two adults and two children? Could you live in such a small place? I think I could, not sure about my daughters though.


Sunday, 29 November 2015

November things

November is always a busy month for us. Not only do both of my girls have birthdays this month, but they are only one day apart on the 12th and 13th.

When they were little they used to share a party, but not anymore, so the celebrations seem to last over an entire week with their various birthday meals, parties or sleepovers taking place before everything's all over for another year.

This year we celebrated The Teenager's 19th birthday, and Tall Daughter's 16th. I still struggle to believe that they're both so grown up now, and that this is the last year The Teenager will actually be a teenager. How can she be 20 next year? Surely she was only watching the Teletubbies a couple of years ago? 

And as Tall Daughter reliably informs me, now she's turned the magic 16, she's old enough to join the army, drive a tractor and buy a lottery ticket.  There is also the matter of her being old enough to do ...erm...other stuff but we'll gloss over that for now.

We went into Manchester on their birthday weekend for a meal, and then onto the Christmas market next to the Lowry centre.  This chocolate brownie stall was very popular - your choice of brownie with hot chocolate sauce and cream poured over, very naughty but totally irresistible!

Lowry centre Christmas market

Lowry centre Christmas market

Tall Daughter and I went into town last week to see the Weeping Window poppy installation at St. George's Hall.  We didn't get the chance to see the installation at the Tower of London last year, so we were keen to see this smaller but no less moving display. It was pouring with rain when we got there, and fenced off (open during the daytime though) so we viewed it from several feet away but it was still beautiful and probably easier to see because of the lack of crowds.  Each poppy represents a life lost from one of the Liverpool regiments during the first world war.

Weeping Window poppy installation

Weeping Window poppy installation


Weeping Window poppy installation

I love Liverpool at night time, it's such a beautiful city and very European looking. If you get the train into Lime Street station the first thing you see on exiting the front entrance is the huge neo-classical St. George's Hall building.

It forms part of the cultural quarter with the adjacent (and equally impressive) buildings in William Brown Street which include the Central Library, Walker Art Gallery and World Museum. I love walking around this part of the city, and at night with the old fashioned street lights, illuminated buildings and cobbled streets, it's just gorgeous.

Liverpool at night

Since subscribing to an unlimited cinema ticket at the beginning of the year I've been trying to go to the cinema at least once a week. Some months the choices have been dire, so I haven't always managed it but at this time of year there's usually a lot to choose from.

This month I've seen The Lady in the Van (loved it, Maggie Smith is an absolute joy), The Dressmaker (a quirky black comedy) and Black Mass (Johnny Depp is brilliant in it). I also wanted to see Brooklyn and Carol, but neither of them were showing in the local area, which is a shame.

And now we're already on the countdown to Christmas. At the risk of sounding like Scrooge - bah Humbug! - I think the whole festive period starts way too early each year. By the time the big day comes everything seems to have run out of steam, we're fed up of seeing the same ads on telly and the real meaning of Christmas seems to get lost in a commercialised haze.  I'm sure I'm not the only one thinking that, am I?

And finally, this month I started working full-time for the first time in 12 years! I'm still getting used to it, but it seems okay so far. Actually, tell the truth, I did try full-time a couple of years ago when I started working for a charity but combined with a very long commute it all added up to a very tiring working week so after a few months I cut back to four days a week. Now I work close to home which means I can get back quickly at the end of the day, and with one daughter at uni and the other old enough to drive her own tractor, I'm not needed as much at home anymore. I think we'll be okay.

What have you been up to this month?

Wednesday, 4 November 2015

Making some changes in the bedroom and getting a better night's sleep

Getting a better night's sleep


As mentioned in my previous post, I've been making some changes as recommended by a sleep expert in an effort to improve the quality of my sleep.

It's taken me a little longer than I expected, mainly because I've been having awful lower back problems which have been going on for weeks now (inflammation of the facet joints, very painful).

One of the recommendations was to clear the bedroom of clutter, technology and anything that doesn't belong in there.  I hate having an untidy bedroom, but I'd noticed a gradual build of of clutter which had been driving me mad! So, a couple of weekends ago, I decided to bite the bullet and sort it all out.

Decluttering the bedroom

I'd been wanting to paint the bedside cabinets for a while, so they were the first things to be emptied. I've had them for years, and they're in good nick but were looking a bit...orange.

Then I cleared everything from under the bed.  For some reason there were several of those large 'under bed storage' bags full of things we either didn't use, need or want anymore. I also went through all my shoes and clothes, and along with the stuff from under the bed it was either donated to a charity shop or taken to the tip.  I was pretty ruthless, you would have been proud.

Painting the bedside cabinets

Then I painted the bedside cabinets (using this Apartment Therapy guide) which took longer than I expected due to my dodgy back. But, eventually they were done and ready to go back into the bedroom, which by now was looking a lot less cluttered.

Next on the list was replacing the mattress, which was at least 8 years old - possibly even older. Silentnight very kindly offered me one of their prize-winning Classic 1200 Pocket Deluxe mattresses to try, and their Just Like Down pillows and duvet.  Seriously, the duvet is so soft it's like sleeping under a cloud.

Silentnight mattress

Silentnight mattress

Then it was time to make the bed, and add some finishing touches.

Tidy bedroom

Tidy bedroom

Tidy bedroom
I think my bed needs more cushions!

It's a much more pleasant room to be in, it feels much more inviting and it's lovely to be able to walk in without seeing mounds of laundry or having to think about tidying up.

It's no coincidence that I've been spending more time in there, pottering around in the evenings (I love a good old potter) and going to bed early so I can read in bed before turning off the light.

I'm already noticing a difference. I feel more rested in the mornings, my back pain has reduced significantly and the quality of sleep is improving, although it's still something I'm working on.

Do you get a decent night's sleep?


Disclosure:  this is a collaboration with Silentnight, but the words, opinions and bedroom are my own.

Monday, 2 November 2015

Making it my way: Giovanni Rana butter and sage sauce

Simply Italian Butter and Sage sauce

Well, it definitely feels like proper autumn now that our Indian summer is over and the chill has set in.  This is the time of year when we want comfort food, and I'm always on the look out for tasty filling meals that require minimum amount of faffing, so I was happy to take up the challenge from Giovanni Rana to make three different dishes with their new Butter and Sage sauce.

As you might expect, it's perfect as a pasta sauce, but the creamy sauce has a lovely sage flavour which goes particularly well with mushrooms, and as we are still not eating meat I thought we would see how versatile it could be.

Mushroom risotto

The first thing I tried was mushroom risotto. I love a risotto, it's probably my favourite TV dinner, and it's so easy to make.   I know some people are put off by the amount of stirring required, but I don't mind if the result is so tasty.  I'm afraid that in my haste to eat it this is the only photo I took of the risotto, and it looks a bit anaemic because it's before the pepper and cheese were added.  Sorry!

I added two big spoonfuls of the Butter and Sage sauce towards the end of cooking, around the time I would normally add butter to the pan to finish off the dish. It added a lovely creamy, subtle flavour to the risotto. 

Butter and sage sauce

Next day I decided to have an old favourite for lunch: mushrooms on toast. A variety of mushrooms gently fried for a few minutes then the butter and sage sauce added to make a creamy sauce, and poured over a big slice of toasted crusty bread.  SO good, and could it be any easier?

Mushrooms on toast with Giovanni Rana Butter and Sage sauce

We're eating a lot of fish at the moment, and the sauce was perfect with some smoked haddock we had the following night, I just warmed in the microwave for 30 seconds and poured it over the fish and veg. Sometimes fish dishes can be a bit dry, so this was a lovely way to enjoy it. I'd definitely have this again.

Smoked haddock with butter and sage sauce


So, three different ways to use the sauce and none of them using pasta.  We enjoyed all three meals, but the sauce lends itself very well to a variety of dishes, we'll definitely have it again.


Friday, 30 October 2015

Reasons to be cheerful this week #R2BC

I thought I'd join in with this week's Reasons to be Cheerful linky over on Becky's blog.  I've got three reasons this week:

1. Autumn leaves


Is it just my imagine or have the autumn leaves this year been particularly colourful and vibrant? The weather has been perfect for dog walkers: bright, sunny and not too hot - and is there anything more uplifting than a long walk when autumn is in full swing? I love this season, it's so beautiful.  
 Dog walks in the autumn

After months of recall training, Alice the greyhound has proved herself to be very good at responding to commands and as a result is able to spend a bit more time off-lead.  Greyhounds instinctively love to run and giving her the opportunity to do it for fun, rather than for so-called sport, is lovely. This week she's been having great fun chasing squirrels (she never catches them, they always run up a tree) and running through the woods. 

Morning walk through the village

I've also got a great view of the park from my bedroom window.  The tree with the golden leaves is actually in our garden, but the trees beyond are just over the fence in the park. I'll miss this view when we move house next year.



2. A leisurely lunch

We had the opportunity to have lunch at a restaurant which is new to us, the George and Dragon in Altrincham.  We like Altrincham, it's good for shopping and Tatton Park stately home and Dunham Massey park are always good for a visit.

I asked Tall Daughter if she'd like to invite her very nice but incredibly quiet boyfriend along to have lunch with us. I thought it might be easier to interrogate him chat over a relaxed lunch as he always seems very shy when he comes to the house,

It's a funny business, getting to know your daughters' boyfriends because one of the things you want your children to do is to choose someone who will treat them, and as a parent you really want to like them - I mean, how awkward would it be if you didn't? Fortunately for me both of my girls have made sound choices (so far) in the boyfriend department.

The lunch was delicious, there was plenty of choice - including several vegetarian options - and the food was freshly made and very tasty. Service was very good and we were made to feel welcome, and the quiet and relaxed atmosphere made it easier to get to know TD's boyfriend a bit better.  A very enjoyable lunch.

George and Dragon Altrincham

George and Dragon Altrincham

George and Dragon Altrincham



3. Time off 

Last week I made a last minute decision to take this week off work. I haven't worked in a school for two years now, and I miss having the half-terms off.  I don't really need them as much now as my daughters are old enough to look after themselves, but still, it's nice to occasionally plan some time off.

Of course, The Teenager is at uni so yesterday we made a little road trip to visit her.  Even though she's a very confident girl and was sure she wouldn't miss being at home she admitted that she had started to feel a bit homesick recently so a well-timed visit from us was a little boost for her, plus Tall Daughter hadn't been to Sheffield before and was keen to see where her sister was living now.

If the weather is good, the drive to Sheffield includes a very pleasant route through the Peak District - what a beautiful place, the scenery is just stunning.  Unfortunately, the weather wasn't great yesterday and we only saw a few glimpses of the spectacular views, hopefully Tall Daughter will see its real beauty another time. I'd love to spend some time there, maybe on a walking holiday.  It's on my list!

What have you been up to this week?  Have you been away this half-term, or are you spending time at home?

Wednesday, 28 October 2015

Loneliness doesn't happen overnight

Loneliness

Did you read this recent story about 95 year old Bill Palmer?

Bill rang his local radio station to talk about his loneliness. His wife has dementia and now lives in a care home, and Bill talked with heartbreaking candour about how his everyday life is 'hell'. He took a pragmatic approach, saying:

"I listen to the radio and watch TV and have lots of friends, but unfortunately when you get old people don't visit - that's life."

It was heartbreaking to read but as you might expect and hope for, thousands of people got in touch and offered him friendship, phone calls, lunch dates and real warmth.  It's always reassuring to see how the public respond to stories like this, and we've heard plenty of them before, and for a little while it restores our faith in human kindness.

We all feel lonely at some point or another, but loneliness like Bill's doesn't happen overnight. No-one goes from having a close, loving circle of friends and family to being completely alone in an instant.  It's a very gradual process, taking place over many years.  Friends move away, parents are no longer around, children grow up and leave home, relationships end, marriages break down, social lives dwindle.  There might be some depression or anxiety  involved, financial worries, or maybe a house move that results in the loss of a friendly community or neighbour, until gradually we find ourselves a little more isolated than before.

Well meaning people might say things like 'join a club' or 'take up a hobby' which is good advice on paper, but ironically loneliness can make it difficult to make those vital connections with others. Spending too much time on your own can result in losing social skills or the confidence to use them, and so it becomes a vicious circle, and lonely people - by fearing further rejection - can feed into their own isolation by keeping a distance from others.  How often do we hear the phrase 'they keep themselves to themselves' about someone, when I'll bet they're lonely and crying out for company.

Nobody wants to admit to being lonely, and therein lies the rub.  It takes a very brave person, like Bill, to put into words what it's like and although he got a such a wonderful response, in most instances saying 'I'm lonely' makes people feel very uncomfortable.

There's a real stigma to admitting it, because it feels like you've done something wrong. It means you haven't been able to sustain a relationship well enough, or have failed to make friends or nurture the ones you've had. Friendships are reduced to the occasional text or Christmas card, or a sincere but effortless 'happy birthday' message on your Facebook wall.  Have a read of this beautifully written blog post by Mother in the Middle, if it doesn't make you want to send real, handwritten birthday cards to everyone you know, nothing will.

Loneliness isn't contagious, but it is an epidemic is in this country.

There are several national campaigns to end loneliness in the UK, which are quite rightly aimed at isolated older people, but loneliness isn't the preserve of the elderly and may be closer to home than you think.

As I said, it doesn't happen overnight and I reckon we all know someone who is already on that slippery slope, but doesn't feel brave enough admit it.  Think about the people in your own life who you suspect are a bit lonely and let them know you care. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture - a simple phone call might be a good start.  It could make all the difference.


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The Campaign to End Loneliness

Age UK's Help End Loneliness

Silverline 

How to help a lonely older person

How to cope with loneliness

Monday, 26 October 2015

Trying to get a good night's sleep

Trying to get a good night's sleep

I've always been a good sleeper. When I was a child I used to enjoy the sensation of falling asleep, still do, and I can still fall asleep very quickly, but for the last few weeks my mind has been whirring and I'm having lots of wide-awake moments in the middle of the night (why is it always 3.30am?) and I'm not getting a full night of good quality sleep.

When I wake in the night, it's like BANG I'm wide awake and there will be a song playing on repeat in my head. Just recently it's been Queen of Peace by Florence and the Machine which, considering she has a voice like a foghorn, seems a bit ironic really.

Added to that, I've been having some back problems which is making the sleep issue even more difficult.

To try and resolve it and find some answers to why I'm sleeping badly, I'm having a bit of help from a Silentnight's sleep expert. I know, I didn't know there was such a thing either but there is.

After completing a sleep diary and questionnaire, I had my first session with Dr Nerina, a couple of weeks ago, and it wasn't quite what I was expecting. Sure, it started off as I imagined it would with questions about my quality of sleep, sleep routine, nutrition and how much caffeine I drink (too much tea apparently) and I picked up some tips on how to get a good night's sleep:
  • Avoid using technology at least an hour before going to bed.  It can make the brain too stimulated;
  • Reading a book in bed will help you to relax before going to sleep;
  • If you have things on your mind, jot them down in a journal. Putting pen to paper can help to clear a busy mind;
  • cut down on caffeine from lunch time onwards. If you can't go without a cuppa try decaff for a change;
  • Put a few drops of lavender oil on your pillow. The scent helps to calm the mind and induce sleep;
  • Invest in a good quality mattress and check for signs of wear . If yours is older than 7 years it might be time to get a new one;
  • don't keep your phone next to your bed, it's too tempting to check it during the night; 
  • Instead of using your phone as an alarm, buy an old-fashioned alarm clock and keep the phone downstairs, or at least away from the bedside table;
  • if you wake during the night, don't  check the time. Instead, try a breathing technique to get back to sleep: Kundalini breathing is particularly good for a wired mind and body. Sit up straight in bed, pucker your lips as if holding a 10p coin, breathe in forcefully through the lips, exhale through the nose. Do this for one - two minutes;
  • Create the perfect sleep environment. Make your bedroom tranquil, calm and free from clutter, junk and technology. You should never bring your work life into the bedroom – make it a technology free zone.
Then it took an unexpected turn. She thought, from my answers and sleep diary, that I was "running on empty" and asked me, "So, who looks after you?"

I wasn't expecting that, and honestly didn't know how to respond, but I suppose it's something many parents are guilty of, and single parents are probably even worse.  When there's only you doing everything it's very easy to be swept up in the busyness of life, and fall into the trap of not looking after yourself. There's always something that needs doing, or someone else to take care of, and looking after Number 1 is usually way down on the To Do List.

After establishing that my self-care is pretty minimal, Dr Nerina thought I should concentrate more on paying more attention to myself and my own needs. It's strange to hear a stranger, to all intents and purposes, say that you need to put yourself first, and consciously think about making some life changes.  "It takes energy to change direction" she said.  I've thought about that a lot since our session, and she's right, it does take energy (and courage) to change direction, but I suppose you also need to know which direction to take.

While I'm thinking about that, I'm going to be making a few smaller changes, and hope to see an improvement in the quality of my sleep,  I'm going to be making some of the changes suggested by Dr Nerina, including decluttering and tidying my bedroom which I think will also help.  I'll be writing about that later this week.



Disclosure: this is part of a collaboration with Silentnight, but words and opinions are my own.

Friday, 23 October 2015

Are you brave enough for the Home of Halloween?

Blackpool Tower Dungeon

Halloween is much more of a thing these days isn't it?

At the risk of showing my age, when I was little Halloween was a fun event consisting of toffee apples, apple bobbing, carving pumpkin lanterns, and telling ghost stories while someone made whoo-whoo noises in the background.  Sadly, I don't think that's enough to keep today's children satisfied, they want more (fake) blood and gore and they want to be scared! Where has this thirst for horror come from I wonder?

When my girls were little they were obsessed with going Trick or Treating, which has become hugely popular over the past few years. And now, that American influence of celebrating Halloween is spreading over here and it seems to be getting bigger each year.  As soon as the summer holidays are over the shops seem to be full of Halloween outfits and masks and macabre decorations. We have a local, organised Halloween walk around the village, and some of our neighbours really go to town on decorating their houses for the night. Later on there's also a Monsters' Ball, but for older children it's probably a bit tame. 

For older kids and adults, going to a Halloween event is the thing these days and both of my teenagers are keen to go to one - and the scarier the better!  

Blackpool Tower Dungeon 'After Dark' event
The Blackpool Tower Dungeon, experts in scaring the bejaysus out of willing victims customers, will play host to the Home of Halloween family experience this month, complete with over 800 pumpkins, a host of characters, electrifying special effects and stories.

"Join our cast of horribly hilarious characters as you embark on a journey of mischief and mayhem. Meet the Witch Finder General and mysterious witches before being accused of a terrible ‘witchy’ crime, plus take a ride on our ‘for those who dare’ drop ride for a real thrill".

Suitable for children aged eight and over, and maybe adults who don't do the scary stuff (like me!) this sounds more treat than trick.  

For the more daring, there's also a spine-chilling After Dark event, strictly for over 18s, where you get to be chased around in the dark and scared witless.  I was invited to go along but I'm a scaredy cat I politely declined.  

Whatever you do this Halloween, have fun and stay safe. 

Blackpool Tower Dungeon



Disclosure: this post was written in collaboration with the Blackpool Tower Dungeon

Saturday, 10 October 2015

If I could escape

Unsplash.com

This is a bit of an unsettled time for me. I'm can't go into details here, but there are a lot of things going on in the background right now that are making me feel very unsettled and agitated, and I seem to have a head full of conflicting thoughts and ideas, constantly whirring with an ongoing internal dialogue as I try to resolve the different issues, getting nowhere fast.

It's all making me very tired and irritable, and I really really need a break from it all.

I watched Into the Wild the other night, a true story about a man who decides to leave everything behind to live in isolation in the Alaskan wilderness. It was a bit of an odd film but it really got me thinking about escaping from it all, and daydreaming about selling up, buying a camper van and driving off into the sunset.

Many years ago I talked about doing that very thing: I decided that when I retired, I would buy a motor home and spend a couple of years travelling around the UK visiting all of the places I'd always wanted to see. And in all honesty, right now, that dream has been reawakened.

This feeling of being unsettled isn't new, I've talked a lot recently about moving away and making a new start and maybe this is all part of that. It's probably no coincidence that my new favourite blog is Us In a Bus, about a family of six who live in a bus and have spent the last two years touring New Zealand. Seriously, I don't know how they do it but they have four boys under the age of 10 and still manage to make it work. Truly inspirational stuff, I'm so envious.

So surely it's got to be easy for a lone woman and her dog to do it? I've already had a word with Alice, and she's up for it.

We all have dreams of doing something crazy (or is it just me?) but this one is seriously taking up a lot of my thinking time right now.  But, but... of course there is planning involved, and  boring financial details, and even the practicalities of can I actually do it.  

I've already got a sketchy idea of how to afford it (sell house, invest in small flat to come back to when life on the road loses its appeal, rent the flat off in the meantime and live off the rental payments).  Maybe it's just a dream, but I'd love to give it a go if even for a short while.

Of course at the moment I still have responsibilities here, including the small detail of a teenage daughter who wants to stay put so she can start college next year. So I have some time before I could even consider doing it, but that's planning time, right? Turning this crazy plan into reality? Or realising that I really am completely mad and haven't got a hope in hell of surviving more than a week on the road.

I don't know, maybe I am mad for thinking it could work, but in the meantime I'm enjoying daydreaming about it and plotting my escape.

Do you think I'm crazy or do you fancy it too? Where would you escape to?


Friday, 2 October 2015

Season of mists and mellow fruitfulness

SEASON of mists and mellow fruitfulness,

Close bosom-friend of the maturing sun;

Conspiring with him how to load and bless

With fruit the vines that round the thatch-eaves run;

To bend with apples the moss'd cottage-trees,
And fill all fruit with ripeness to the core;

To swell the gourd, and plump the hazel shells

With a sweet kernel; to set budding more,

And still more, later flowers for the bees,
Until they think warm days will never cease;
For Summer has o'erbrimm'd their clammy cells.

                 ~ Ode to Autumn, John Keats

I love autumn, and love it even more when there's an Indian summer. I can't believe we're already in October and the weather is so warm.

I've been out and about with Alice this week, trying to capture a bit of autumn colour and we've had some stunning sunsets, bright sunshine and misty mornings, a real mixture.  I love the light in autumn, and the long shadows caused by the sun being so low in the sky.  I wonder if the blood moon (which I slept through!) had anything to do with the amazing sunsets that followed?

Of course autumn means Strictly Come Dancing is back on the telly, which is good enough for me, I love a bit of Saturday evening light-entertainment.  I've never understood the snobbery about it, if it's done well then why not enjoy it?

One of my earliest memories is watching Come Dancing at my grandparent's.  Come Dancing was the precursor to Strictly and was very popular in the 60s and 70s and whenever I went to stay with Nan and Granddad it was always a treat to stay up late to watch it. Happy memories.

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Are you planning anything this weekend?  Tall Daughter has asked if we can go for a walk on a beach somewhere, so that's a definite plan, and I think it's soup-making season again. You can't beat homemade soup with crusty bread.  Have you seen the trailer for the The Intern? I like Nancy Meyers' films so that's on my weekend list too.

Whatever you're doing this weekend, hope it's a good one.